Where do I even begin? This feels like the perfect opportunity for me to talk about you.
I have seen you as a boyfriend, someone who held me up so high, treated me with so much love, and made me feel like a princess. Then as a husband, you always loved and respected me, and counted on me for everything, which made me feel incredibly special. You have been there for me through every thick and thin moment, every joy and every happy situation.
You handle every situation so well that every time I look at you, I pray to God that I become at least half the person you are. While I panic at the smallest things, you hold my hand and make me feel so comfortable that I forget how hard the situation is. You have taught me how to think through a problem instead of jumping to instant conclusions.
And now, seeing you as a dad blows my mind every single time I watch you with Vedh.
The patience, love, and consistent commitment you have towards family is just amazing. What surprises me most is that you show the same amount of love and interest in every situation—good or bad. Like I said, you always think things through.
I must say, I must have prayed a little harder than everyone else in my past life to have you by my side in this one. I am cherishing every second, every moment, and every day of my life with you.
Honestly, I didn’t realize how unhealthy eating and not being active were affecting my life. Up until I was around 24 or 25, I was living the dream (or so I thought): eating out every day, snacks without limits, junk food every weekend, no sports, and absolutely zero workouts. And guess what? Nothing seemed to happen. My body just didn’t bother . It was like, “Cool, carry on.”
Things only started to shift after I turned 25. I began gaining weight, felt tired more often, health issues like PCOD, missed periods etc and then came the harsh one…photos. Yup, I noticed it in the pictures first. My face looked rounder, my body fuller, and even people started pointing it out in a nice way. The more nicer they are the more it hurts 😭
Still, no major motivation kicked in. I knew I needed do something, but I had all the time in the world, so had the privilege to procrastinate 🤓
I had lots of time in the morning before work, lots of time after work, still no motivation or a plan to workout for few minutes.
Then one day, it hit me: having too much time is a trap. So I made my schedule super busy. Like, insanely packed. I reached a point where I had to fight for just 30-45 minutes of workout time. And guess what? That fight made me value it even more. Just like my mom used to say, You only realize how important something is when you have nothing of it left—whether it’s time, energy, or health. Damn she was right!!
So here’s my small piece advice: Keep your schedule busy. Hopefully filling it with productive stuff 😋.
Things changed fast and took to a whole new level when I became a mom. And not just any mom—a working mom. And let me tell you, it’s more fun now 😉. You don’t even have to try to make your schedule tighter—it’s already busier at the core. And that makes you really motivated to find time for yourself.
Sometimes, I even get irritated or yell at my hubs when I don’t get that one hour. I’ll just say, “I need ONE hour for myself, that’s it!” Like, come on, I’m not asking for a spa weekend. These exact words works most of the time 🤪.
Seriously, guys—fight for that time. You’ll get it, and I’m sure you will even use it wisely.
But how do I motivate myself to do something after getting that time for yourself??
The energy is gone. You must be hungry, tired and sleepy. Happens every single day. So now, I don’t force myself up to lift weights or smash a workout. My only goal is to walk into a room and put on my workout shorts. That’s it. Step one: shorts on. Then I look in the mirror—and boom—suddenly I’m working out. Why? Because I see how far I’ve come and how much further I can go. That mirror moment does the trick every single time.
This little trick has kept me going. I’ve been working out six days a week for two years—without a single break. Not even lying. I’m actually shocked and proud of myself about it.
I’ve talked to so many people who say they’re just not motivated. And honestly, it’s super common. So here’s my advice: don’t aim to crush a workout at first. Just aim to take that one step. Put on your workout clothes and sit with that thought. It might work. It might not. But worth trying I guess.
One of my biggest motivations? The changes. And I don’t just mean physical, it’s barely I care about these days. The other things that are more useful and evident are the way I think, way I handle things, how I solve problems, how I carry myself, and how I don’t lose myself in the chaos. That’s the real win as a working-mom.
So, if you’re still giving up on making time for yourself, I think there are a few reasons behind it—“according to me!!”
Sorry if I sound a bit judgmental here, but this is coming from what I’ve observed in so many people over the years. So, let’s break it down:
1. You’re secretly waiting for your body to remind you.
And trust me, when your body does remind you… it’s not nice. It comes in the form of deficiencies, or something suddenly being too high or too low in your health reports. If you are 30+ and still don’t see signs, you are in for a big surprise soon🫣. Then comes the panic after when you see the signs. That’s when you go and make a diet and workout plan and stick it to the fridge.
2. Priorities: this is the most famous excuse by everyone, including my own husband sometimes 😉. I had lots of office work today is heard everywhere. I think if you are not able to finish the work between 9-5, that means your brain isn’t fully functioning well to its fullest, prolonging it only makes it worse.
3. You look physically thin, so you think working out will make you thinner.
I seriously laugh in my head when I hear this. Like, full comedy show going on inside. I usually don’t even bother correcting or explaining anything to people who think this way. You’re missing the whole point, so I don’t have the time.
4. You’ve seen your parents or grandparents survive “just fine” at 60, 70, or even 80—without doing a single workout in their life.
So you convince yourself that you’ll be “just fine” too. But this is the biggest scam ever. Their lives were nothing like ours. No processed food, no hormone-injected stuff, no packaged meals every day. Even the air they breathed was cleaner. So please, don’t compare your lifestyle to theirs.
And hey, if you don’t fall into any of these categories and still don’t give time to yourself… I’m sorry but—you’re in trouble 😜 (kidding and not kidding)
Please write in me about the things that demotivate you?? I would be really interested to hear and I am all ears ♥️
Recently, I turned 30, and like many others, I’ve started reflecting on my health, fitness, and the inevitable aging. As I’ve dug deeper into what happens to our bodies over time, I’ve come across some unsettling truths.
One concept that’s both upsetting and scary is “sarcopenia”— a condition of age-related muscle loss. Starting around age 30, we begin to lose as much as 3% to 5% of our muscle mass per decade. Learning this hit me like a ton of bricks—why has no one mentioned this before? Naturally, this raised a flood of questions: What happens if we lose too much muscle? Could we actually lose all of it? And, most importantly, what can we do to stop this decline? (Oh, and no, at this point please dnt ask yourselves “What are muscles?”—we’re definitely smarter than that.)
To me, the concept of health feels more complicated than ever, and I’ve started questioning everything about nutrition and fitness. Have you noticed how our parents or grandparents often struggle with basic activities as they age? Not very long ago, people in their 90s could still manage daily tasks on their own. Now, it’s not unusual to see people in their 50s or 60s struggling serious mobility issue. A major culprit? Sarcopenia. Losing muscle doesn’t just take away your strength—it hinders your ability to move freely and live independently. Think long-term—after all, isn’t thriving and surviving what we’re here for?
I’ve come across too many people obsessing over being “thin,” “slim,” or “curvy.” I’ll admit that I was one of them not too long ago. However, I’ve recently come to understand that the real goal should be staying fit. I have adapted my original perspective a bit, fitness is all about building and maintaining healthy muscle mass, which truly matters. Sure, losing weight can be quick (and often unhealthy), but building muscle? That takes patience, consistency, and lot of time. My advice? Ditch the measuring tape and scale obsession and focus on muscle health—because strong beats skinny any day 😜
After a lot of research, reading, and even surviving an introductory muscle-building course. I’ve put together a foolproof set of rules for keeping my muscle mass and overall fitness in check.
First, vitamins and minerals matter too—they make our muscles very happy and they are essential for muscle growth and their retention. Aim for a balanced diet rich in essentials like vitamin D, iron, and B6. Second, protein is the ultimate muscle food. Adults over 30 should aim for 1 to 1.3 grams per kilogram of body weight daily—spread it out across meals rather than binging it all at dinner. Finally, resistance training is key. You don’t need a fancy gym membership to get results; a couple of dumbbells and some resistance bands can do wonders.
So, whether you’re 30 or younger, it’s never too early to focus on muscle health—because, eventually, we all face the same challenges.
I’d love to hear your feedback, so feel free to reach out if you found this helpful or if you have any questions.
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